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A Guide to Couples Therapy, Marital Preparation, Sex Therapy, Coaching, and More: Figuring Out What Your Relationship Needs

Writer's picture: Sasha JavadpourSasha Javadpour

Updated: Feb 3


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Relationships go through ups and downs, and many couples seek professional support at some point to navigate specific challenges, strengthen their bond, or prepare for lifelong commitment. But, anyone who has tried to start looking may have found themselves confronted with a sea of different terms that sound the same but may not be; making the task of finding the right practitioner a challenge in and of itself. Understanding these distinctions can help couples choose the right support for their needs.


In this guide, we will break down the differences between these forms of relationship support, exploring how they vary in scope, techniques, and intended outcomes. Whether you're looking to resolve conflicts, improve communication, prepare for marriage, or enhance your overall relationship, knowing what each approach offers can make a significant difference in finding the right fit.


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Couples Therapy or Couples Counselling

The terms therapy and counselling are often used interchangeably today, but traditionally, they have distinct meanings. Counselling comes from the Latin consilium, meaning "advise", reflecting its focus on dialogue and guidance. In contrast, therapy originates from the Greek word therapeia, meaning "healing," and is more associated with structured interventions that target specific issues.

 

Today, the terms have become interchangeable, as practitioners recognize the value of both approaches in helping people. As a result, many professionals integrate counselling skills, involving guidance and relationship-building, with therapeutic interventions to support clients effectively.

 

This blending of approaches is also seen in couples counselling and couples therapy. Traditionally, couples counselling focuses on creating a safe space for open dialogue, helping partners communicate better and resolve conflicts through facilitated discussions. It is typically more short-term and solution-focused, aiming to strengthen the relationship by improving understanding and communication. Couples therapy, on the other hand, tends to involve deeper psychological work, using structured interventions to address underlying emotional patterns, trauma, or persistent relational difficulties. Therapy is often longer-term and may draw from models such as the Gottman Method, or Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), to create lasting change.

 

If you are seeking professional support for your relationship, you can feel confident that, whether you work with a couples therapist or a couples counsellor, the experience will likely integrate both counselling and therapeutic approaches. Most practitioners draw from both methods, combining open dialogue with structured interventions to help couples strengthen their relationships and navigate challenges effectively.


The following tend to fall under the umbrella of couples therapy, although not all practitioners may be well-versed in them. However, most couples therapists are at least familiar with the following. If you are unsure whether a therapist can support your specific concerns, it's always okay to reach out, ask questions, or explore your options - most therapists welcome enquiries and are happy to guide you in finding the right fit.



Marriage Counselling

Marriage counselling is similar to couples counselling but specifically focuses on challenges within marriage. It is often sought by couples who feel stuck in unhealthy patterns, have experienced breaches of trust, or are struggling with major life stressors such as parenting, career changes, or cultural differences. Marriage counselling provides a structured environment for discussing grievances, improving communication, and rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy. While it can help couples work through conflicts, it differs from couples therapy in that it is generally more short-term and focused on problem-solving rather than deep emotional healing. It can also benefit married couples who are not necessarily in crisis but want to reinforce their bond and ensure long-term relationship satisfaction.

 


Marriage Preparation (Premarital Counselling or Pre-Wedding Coaching)

Marriage preparation, also known as premarital counselling or pre-wedding coaching, is designed for engaged or seriously committed couples who want to lay a strong foundation before marriage.


These sessions help partners discuss important topics such as:

  • Communication Styles

  • Conflict Resolution

  • Financial Planning

  • Family Expectations

  • Intimacy and Sexuality

  • Parenting Styles

  • Roles and Responsibilities

  • Long-Term Goals and Dreams

  • Cultural or Religious Differences

  • Dealing with Change and Stress

  • Expectations for Marriage


The aim is to identify potential challenges early and equip couples with skills to handle them constructively. Some marriage preparation programs are faith-based, while others use psychological frameworks such as the Prepare/Enrich assessment or the Gottman Method to enhance understanding and compatibility. Marriage preparation is ideal for couples who want to proactively strengthen their relationship before making a lifelong commitment.



Sex therapy

Sex therapy is a specialized form of psychotherapy that helps couples address sexual difficulties and intimacy concerns, fostering a more fulfilling physical and emotional connection. It can be beneficial for partners experiencing mismatched libidos, sexual dissatisfaction, performance anxiety, pain during sex, or the lingering effects of past trauma on intimacy. In addition to resolving specific sexual issues, sex therapy also helps couples navigate emotional barriers to intimacy, such as shame, fear, or difficulty communicating about desires and boundaries.

 

It’s important to note that no actual sexual activity occurs during sex therapy. Clients do not undress or engage in any physical acts during sessions. Instead, sex therapy focuses on open, respectful dialogue and the exploration of sexual health, desires, and relationship dynamics. A trained professional, often with expertise in human sexuality, guides discussions and provides tools to help couples address their concerns. Sessions typically involve education, communication exercises, and behavioural techniques designed to improve physical intimacy and emotional connection. The goal is to create a safe, supportive environment where partners can address sensitive topics without judgment, ultimately enhancing their sexual well-being and strengthening their physical and emotional bonds.



Couples Coaching

Couples coaching is a goal-oriented approach that helps partners enhance their relationship through personal growth, improved communication, and shared vision-building. Unlike therapy or counselling, which often focus on resolving problems, couples coaching emphasizes strengths, motivation, and forward-focused strategies. A couples coach may help partners develop better communication skills, create a shared life plan, or navigate transitions such as starting a family or balancing careers. Sessions tend to be more structured and action-driven, with exercises fostering connection and growth. Since coaching does not address mental health issues or past trauma, it is best suited for couples who want to optimize an already functional relationship rather than repair a deeply strained one.



Discernment counselling

Discernment counselling is a short-term, specialized form of counselling for couples considering a breakup or divorce. It can help couples decide if they should stay together or separate, and support them through the process. Unlike traditional couples therapy, which assumes both partners are committed to improving the relationship, discernment counselling helps partners gain clarity about their future before making a final decision. It can be useful when one partner is leaning toward ending the relationship while the other wants to work on it. The counsellor guides each person individually and together to explore their concerns, reflect on past dynamics, and consider the potential for change.

 

The goal is not to fix the relationship but to help couples make an informed and thoughtful choice about their next steps. This may involve committing to couples therapy, pursuing separation, or maintaining the status quo for further reflection.



Our Conclusion: Finding the Right Support for Your Relationship

 

Every relationship faces challenges, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. Whether you are looking to strengthen your bond, improve communication, rekindle intimacy, or gain clarity about your future together, there is a form of support that meets your needs. From couples therapy and marriage counselling to sex therapy, discernment counselling, and couples coaching, each approach offers unique benefits tailored to you and your partner.

 

At Hirsch Therapy, we believe that seeking professional guidance is not a sign of failure – it’s a commitment to understanding each other more deeply and building a stronger, healthier relationship. With the right support, you can break unhelpful patterns, heal past wounds, and foster the connection you truly desire.

 

If you’re ready to take the next step, please feel free to reach out to us. Schedule a 15-minute free online consultation to find out more, clarify any doubts, and get to know your therapist, or book a Couples Therapy Session with us today!

 

We look forward to supporting you and your partner in any way that we can!


 






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